Dad didn’t leave a funeral plan. So we guessed.
No songs. No instructions.
Maybe he didn’t want to think about it.
Maybe he thought there’d be more time.

We got lucky. I knew a drone pilot who offered to scatter his ashes for free. Dad loved a gadget, and a bargain even more, so we said yes.

It took some convincing, but my sister joined in and chose the music. The day was beautiful. Still, I wonder: was that what he would’ve wanted?

So if you can leave a plan, write it down. Pick a song. Tell someone. One day, they’ll need to know.

Tips for Writing a Funeral Plan

Creating an end-of-life plan might feel daunting, but it’s one of the kindest gifts you can leave for those you love. Start small; you don’t have to do it all at once. Begin with the basics: who to contact, where important documents are kept, and any special wishes you have for your farewell.

Write in your own words; this plan is a reflection of you. Include favourite songs, readings, or personal touches that feel right. Review it once a year; life changes, and so will your preferences.

Finally, tell someone where to find your plan. A conversation now saves confusion later. It’s not about control; it’s about care. Taking these simple steps can bring you and those who’ll one day carry out your wishes enormous peace of mind.

Have you had a similar experience? Please email me your thoughts — I’d love to share your tips with our community.

Learn more about Aerial Ashes here, and if you want to get started with your own plans, do check out our article.

Cheers James B